tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post2890687301283211321..comments2024-03-16T19:36:23.953-04:00Comments on Of Battered Aspect: StuffDave Hingsburgerhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11918601687946534172noreply@blogger.comBlogger73125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-29149970885142863352011-04-01T13:07:14.191-04:002011-04-01T13:07:14.191-04:00Hi Dave, first I'm disappointed to hear about ...Hi Dave, first I'm disappointed to hear about the nasty and demanding emails. Those would put me into a funk too. <br /><br />I read your blog frequently, often in batches, but I don't always comments and for that I am sorry. I know that I love comments on my blog and know that comments are important to others too. <br /><br />your posts have meant so much to me, and they often pop into my head. Especially the one about the young person who said they don't have Down syndrome all the time.Melissahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06474584473012742915noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-57001267839731099502011-03-29T01:15:29.318-04:002011-03-29T01:15:29.318-04:00Sry can't type long, my hands HATE ME!
I abso...Sry can't type long, my hands HATE ME!<br /><br />I absolutely love your blog Dave. I admit I haven't been reading it everyday like I used to, but I do read them. I like the way you weave your words. You are an inspiring, graceful and sometimes blunt when blunt is needed! :)<br /><br />It's sometimes hard to read your blog for me because due to debilitating medical problems I have had to stop working with the wonderful people with developmental disabilities that I worked with and love very deeply. so reading reminds me of them. I still go volunteer to cook for my old work house once a week, which brings me a lot of life.<br /><br />I can't believe people send you such horrible comments! I guess part of it is people feel less inhibitions when they are on the Internet. People will type things they would NEVER say to your face!! But even if that is the case, there is absolutely no excuse. It's just a cowards way because they know that if they said something like that were others can see it, they would get oodles of the kinds of messages they themselves send out.<br /><br />Ok that is my quota 4 typing 2day. I have more thoughts but I'll write them down in another comment or two later on.<br />Hang in there!<br />REformed girlReformed Anon. Girl in Painhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01201298388653367530noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-72480408073994996902011-03-27T11:31:30.298-04:002011-03-27T11:31:30.298-04:00Dave,
I read your blog regularly. I find inspria...Dave, <br /><br />I read your blog regularly. I find inspriation in what you write. I would find it a shame if you stop blogging because you have and continue to change the world. You give your blog meaning by writting about disability and how it really is. So please continue blogging, it means alot to everyone, even if we don't comment all the time. <br /><br />Thanks for all you do<br />Nikki ( USA )Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-82311808968248108422011-03-26T21:08:08.765-04:002011-03-26T21:08:08.765-04:00Please don't ever shut your blog down! It make...Please don't ever shut your blog down! It makes my morning to wake up and read what you have to say! I don't comment very often, but I carry what you say with me as I go about my day. It reminds me of why I changed my course of education and future employment. I can only aspire to write as well as you and make the kind of impact you do on a daily basis.Marthanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-47467595530266440142011-03-26T15:16:16.355-04:002011-03-26T15:16:16.355-04:00Please keep blogging Dave! I read every single one...Please keep blogging Dave! I read every single one of your posts, sometimes in batches depending on how busy things are, sometimes on a mobile phone that doesn't let me post a comment. <br /><br />I know we have never met but I consider you a friend and nonprofit-sector colleague. <br /><br />When I was in a jury selection pool recently and they asked how we would feel hearing testimony from a person with intellectual disabilities, I cited your blog as having helped prepare me to be able to listen respectfully and take that person very seriously. <br /><br />I never stay silent any more when I hear the "r-word." <br /><br />Now when my 3-year-old son notices someone in a wheelchair, I say "that's what gives that person independence, so they can go to work and school and be with people they love and love them." Now when I find myself next to a group of people with intellectual disabilities at a museum or cultural event, I interact with them like I would with any other fellow patrons - e.g. ask them what they think of the art and listen carefully to what they say.<br /><br />Since reading your blog I am way more aware of bullying and have a lot more strategies to respond and help rather than be a useless bystander.<br /><br />You have changed my understanding of disability and opened my eyes to the ways in which those who are different are casually treated as less than human. <br /><br />I probably comment once a month. But you have had a profound effect on my life! If your life would be better without doing the blog every day, then of course you have to decide what's right for you. But please don't EVER think you wouldn't be missed. And Joe too.Cynthia F.noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-314218911449551132011-03-26T01:34:27.710-04:002011-03-26T01:34:27.710-04:00Dave, I'm late to this party, but write what p...Dave, I'm late to this party, but write what pleases you, when it pleases you. And thank you for all that you have shared, especially the Ruby stories. <br />SharonAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-58831434891649553962011-03-25T19:02:49.219-04:002011-03-25T19:02:49.219-04:00First, I hope you feel better soon!
Your blog is ...First, I hope you feel better soon!<br /><br />Your blog is so polished (in a good way) that I think of your entries as small meditations ("devotionals" in some communities, possibly even "koans," at least to us who don't know what koans are...)<br /><br />You not only frame issues, advocate, and educate in your column, you also model health-ful responses to issues. You show me what vast and appropriate anger/wrath looks like. But you show how one can confront an issue, but not let it ruin your day (motel swimming pool, locked gate at grocery store). And then (kinda scary) you ask what we might do in a situation).<br /><br />I think that is one way Rosie fits in. You are "just" talking about your family and what you do together. No big deal, but it also makes me see how being more inclusive might work with my family (ages 1 to 82).<br /><br />When I read your entries I tend to mull them over. I find I need to think about them, and let them settle. Alas when I comment, thinking goes out the window because I am so busy trying to pass for brilliant.<br /><br />You note clued me in that hey, it is ok to just make a comment that I really like your work (and stay up past midnight so I can read the next day's comment). <br /><br />So, thank you.<br /><br />brettacAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-56372019527405989672011-03-25T17:25:30.592-04:002011-03-25T17:25:30.592-04:00please continue to blog as i have just began to fo...please continue to blog as i have just began to follow you after attending a break away with my company. i have enjoyed the comments and info very much...you are making my life better and in turn the people around me...thanks so much...BethAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-63282857050566818182011-03-25T12:21:02.642-04:002011-03-25T12:21:02.642-04:00Dave,
I read your blog every day and I'd miss...Dave,<br /><br />I read your blog every day and I'd miss it teriibly, but I'd survive. This is your blog and you should write whenever you feel like it about whatever subject you want. No one is forced to read it! If someone doesn't like it, then why in the world don't they just stop?!?<br /><br />DebbieAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-60061781276943383482011-03-25T10:42:19.569-04:002011-03-25T10:42:19.569-04:00Why dont you see if you could do a local cable sho...Why dont you see if you could do a local cable show?Nathan Dawthornenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-3000722795108979842011-03-25T08:49:53.455-04:002011-03-25T08:49:53.455-04:00I don't leave comments regularly, but I do rea...I don't leave comments regularly, but I do read your blog. I think it is terribly sad that you have received emails demanding what you should and should not write about -- as well as insulting your personal family. That makes me very angry for you.<br /><br />As selfish as this will sound, your perspective has helped our family immensely. I hope that you do decide to keep on blogging even if it is once per week, even!<br /><br />I often question the value of personal blogging myself. I'm so sensitive that negative comments put me in a tailspin for days. But that one email or comment from someone who says thank you to me because of something I've wrote makes this whole process worthwhile and meaningful. <br /><br />I think the nature of what you write about will always attract a balance of positive and negative perspectives. But in the big picture of "Rolling Around in my Head", I think your perspective is one of the building blocks for progressive change for people with different abilities.<br /><br />I hope you keep blogging.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-47494044994358851182011-03-25T04:37:45.580-04:002011-03-25T04:37:45.580-04:00Dave,
I read your blog exclusively on a daily bas...Dave,<br /><br />I read your blog exclusively on a daily basis, other blogs I check sporadically.<br />I not only read, but usually post a quote (properly cited, with blog site) in my Facebook. <br />As stated a number of times - but I will add my voice to; I love the Joe and Ruby stories, but the daily grind and how you get through is just as interesting to me. I apply what I can to my work, and try to live my life using the pearls of wisdom you gift. I usually do comment, but always feel insignificant and not worthy to add my voice to yours. So, I love, but I lurk.<br />Hope you feel better and thank you.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-53120254099478762262011-03-24T21:56:41.091-04:002011-03-24T21:56:41.091-04:00Dave, you rock, your blog rocks, and Ruby rocks. ...Dave, you rock, your blog rocks, and Ruby rocks. If I ever have a niece I hope she's half as awesome as Ruby. How could you not post about her? The way she sees things straight on, not having been conditioned yet by society, is glorious. And adorable.<br /><br />I read you every day. I enjoy your perpective, including on the few things that we (somewhat) disagree on. You get me thinking! How awesome is that?Rachelnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-2896872212216397042011-03-24T21:08:45.722-04:002011-03-24T21:08:45.722-04:00I love your blog and read it almost everyday! A lo...I love your blog and read it almost everyday! A lot of times you write things I think but just can't put into words as wonderfully as you do. My favorite posts though are the ones that aren't about something I've thought of before. Your unique perspective on certain ideas/situations/moments makes me think and grow. Thanks for the blog! I hope you keep it up :)mpnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-37696850566632180242011-03-24T20:44:54.516-04:002011-03-24T20:44:54.516-04:00Hi Dave
I don't know anyone else like you and...Hi Dave<br /><br />I don't know anyone else like you and it's great to hear about how you are doing, work, issues and personal. When I think of you I see you rolling down Yonge Street in a heavy snow, passing the bad bleeping driver.<br /><br />Annetteanettohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14627334936337752433noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-63322411205588759002011-03-24T19:57:13.862-04:002011-03-24T19:57:13.862-04:00As you may have noticed there's no way to shut...As you may have noticed there's no way to shut me up once I've found your blog :D (This goes for real life too, when the pain's not got me down, you can't even get away if you're deaf as I can sign!)<br /><br />I can't believe someone's been that horrible about Ruby, the girl's a credit to the human race.<br /><br />I know how people feel about not wanting to just say the same things as the comment before, I wish there was a little thing to press after a comment to say I agree with this person, you'd find there were loads of people reading and thinking but don't want to clog the page up with more of the same! Maybe we need to start a petition to Blogger for this lol<br /><br />I'd love you to carry on as I've recently found you, but if you don't feel you are getting anything from it, either give it up or make it a weekly blog with a round-up and perhaps deeper ponderings as you look back on things, I'm sure we wouldn't mind ;)Noisyworldnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-84208284801079162162011-03-24T19:56:16.836-04:002011-03-24T19:56:16.836-04:00Holy comments, batman... You asked, and apparently...Holy comments, batman... You asked, and apparently, received! Let me just add my voice as one that would be extremely disappointed if this blog stopped. I read religiously, and wouldn't change a thing. I love the "snapshot" quality of your blog. Your posts tend to focus on one tiny moment from your day, and then savour all that it was worth. And whether it's a poignant message or a simple smile to be found in that moment, it's always something that I can relate to in some way. You put many important disability awareness messages out there into the universe, but you also put something delightfully human, yourself, I guess, out there. And that's probably why your words carry such power. It's easy to ignore/forget a message, but not a person. Even though I don't actually know you, your blogs aren't filed under the "something I read" part of my brain, but the "something a friend told me" part. Your blog also gives me a sense of community in the disability experience, and I thank you for that. I've had SMA and the wheelchair that comes with it my entire life, but it's often been lonely, and I'm constantly exploring and rediscovering what disability means to me and to society. Your words have helped me along in that ever ongoing process.<br /><br />I'm really shocked that people would say such rude things in the emails you mentioned. I hope you'll ignore them, and not let their voices haunt you when you sit down to blog. I want my Dave uncensored. :)Kristinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06868874343026873104noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-77925606581962952232011-03-24T19:03:36.187-04:002011-03-24T19:03:36.187-04:00I LOVE your blog but I never comment. I didn't...I LOVE your blog but I never comment. I didn't realize how important comments were to you. <br />Anything you write about, I thoroughly enjoy. Do you ever get to New England? I'd love to meet you and attend one of your "events".Susanhttp://influentialpeople.wordpress.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-69756514466236955832011-03-24T18:48:35.451-04:002011-03-24T18:48:35.451-04:00I'm mom to an amazing 6 year old Seth who has ...I'm mom to an amazing 6 year old Seth who has a developmental disability. This time has been a journey of figuring out what this means to our family and how we want it to fit that into the definition of who we are. You have been invaluable in helping us to continue to make this a big part of the picture, not the whole picture which is how I want it to stay. I'm sorry I'm not a very good commenter but you are so far reaching and I don't think you have played out your writing in anyway. I've only just found you! (Plus, I really love Ruby!) Thanks so much Dave!Robynhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15017124888453826490noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-15561756725337050042011-03-24T18:46:30.718-04:002011-03-24T18:46:30.718-04:00Dave,
I am sorry I don't comment too often...Dave,<br /> I am sorry I don't comment too often any more. But, I read your blog every single day and often recommend it to people I think will appreciate it, especially those new parents of children with Down Syndrome, although I am not sure they are always ready to hear it all. I would be sad if you stopped blogging, I was so happy to find that you had a blog after seeing you at a TASH conference many many years ago.<br />And we all love your Ruby, I am sorry for whoever was rude about her.<br />LisaAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11051482989794391914noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-64269114645495354452011-03-24T18:26:51.039-04:002011-03-24T18:26:51.039-04:00I will de-lurk to let you know I read, I enjoy, yo...I will de-lurk to let you know I read, I enjoy, you make me think about things - sometimes in a new way.<br /><br />jankmilyunhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09759054972109846390noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-62855390246216818432011-03-24T17:35:38.771-04:002011-03-24T17:35:38.771-04:00The simple truth, in my unhumble opinion, is somet...The simple truth, in my unhumble opinion, is something I've said here time and again: This is your space.<br /><br />You wanna write? Write. <br />You don't want to write? Don't write.<br />You want to write about a particular subject, whether it has to do with the usual topic? Write about it.<br />You want to quit entirely? Quit.<br /><br />Do what you want. <br /><br />Rule One: People Are Idjits. Nitwits. Twitbunnies. Asshats. <br /><br />Nobody has the right to dictate to you what you do and don't do here. NOBODY. There is no reason for you to have to put up with that crap. This is why The Internet Gods created Mr Delete Button.<br /><br />So, again, in my unhumble opinion, don't worry about jazzing up the site. Don't worry about whether people care about your content. Don't worry about whether there IS content.<br /><br />Just do what you want to do. It's your space, and it belongs to nobody else.<br /><br /><br /><br /><br />Crap. Now I feel like frikkin Yoda... :-)Moosehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10397412122635951126noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-88950273949987791582011-03-24T17:33:12.198-04:002011-03-24T17:33:12.198-04:00Dave, I will admit that yours is the only blog I ...Dave, I will admit that yours is the only blog I read. I work in the developmental services field and have attended many of your trainings over the years. I pretty much think you are a rock star and feel totally inadequate to add anything to what you write. Your posts always give me something to think about and take back to my workplace and try to get others to think about. Your Ruby stories are wonderful as they demonstrate, nine times out of ten, the automatic, inclusive thinking of children and remind us that we all used to be that open-minded and accepting. I hope you will continue sharing your wisdom. Thank you for your perspective. Have a great day.Sherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12213266574971461657noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-49093599017855283702011-03-24T16:57:02.987-04:002011-03-24T16:57:02.987-04:00Hi Dave,
I try to read your blog every day. Somet...Hi Dave,<br />I try to read your blog every day. Sometimes I laugh sometimes I cry sometimes I get downright angry at the situations you describe and inspired by that I try to effect change in my little part of the world. <br /><br />I am privileged to have made my career in the field of supporting people with disabilities and I often share your writing with my colleagues. Support staff and their administrators can get very focused on doing the best they can at their daily jobs and your insights often bring them out of that for a valuable learning moment.<br /><br />I apologize for not commenting as often as you deserve. Just as you feel writing this blog, I feel that reading it is a hobby - I do it because I enjoy it. The bonus moments are when I can bring something back to my work life. I like all of your stories: the personal, the official, the work related, the calls to action, every little bit. I do not feel you have any particular responsibility to write about one topic to the exclusion of all others. I am impressed with the freedom you feel to share as much as you do about so many aspects of your life! It makes for a well rounded reading experience:)<br /><br />So why don't I comment more often? Pick one: lazy, can't believe anyone needs to read what I think, afraid to be exposed publicly, etc. Most often I feel you have said it well and I don't need to simply agree and sound like a silly follower. <br /><br />I will try to change. I like your writing and hope you do not stop using this forum. Books are great but it is this sort of ongoing/what will he talk about today type of adventure that keeps me coming back for more.<br /><br />Cheers,<br />CherylAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-34585533619392616292011-03-24T16:47:11.627-04:002011-03-24T16:47:11.627-04:00I read regularly and enjoy it! I am a speech lang...I read regularly and enjoy it! I am a speech language pathologist, fresh out of grad school, and I work with middle schoolers. I was in a class when one student called another "r" word and had a total ph man what would Dave do moment. I wasn't the teacher and was not in charge of the class. I wasn't sure how to react without drawing attention to myself and the student with a disability whom I was working with and totally disrupting the lesson. So what would you have done?little.birdyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07156310917613899680noreply@blogger.com