tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post287758215254834827..comments2024-03-19T07:36:33.915-04:00Comments on Of Battered Aspect: Golden GirlsDave Hingsburgerhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11918601687946534172noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-26135993205412967622015-08-18T18:52:31.793-04:002015-08-18T18:52:31.793-04:00When you look at the crap on the small screen some...When you look at the crap on the small screen some days.... I think we all prefer the Golden Girls.<br /><br />Thanks, Dave. You're a hoot.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-202986088748315322015-08-17T03:36:47.360-04:002015-08-17T03:36:47.360-04:00Like Andrea I prefer to use the term 'disabled...Like Andrea I prefer to use the term 'disabled' in reference to myself as it gives me an opportunity to demonstrate that, for me, having a disability is not inherently shameful, it doesn't need to hide behind euphamisms. I am a disabled man, I am a man with a disability, however it's said using that word has become a source of pride and I proudly claim membership in the community of people with disabilities. I do not believe I am differently abled, I have the same kinds of abilities as other people do. If I could fly, or see through walls, I'd be differently abled - but I can't. I don't want to claim exceptionality when there isn't one and I don't want to deny membership in the disability community when it exists. Even so, I make no arguement with how people choose to identify. If I don't like a term, I don't use it. If I'm asked why, as I was in this case, I explain.Dave Hingsburgerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11918601687946534172noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-32719127740233367332015-08-16T16:52:04.751-04:002015-08-16T16:52:04.751-04:00Excuse me, Anonymous, but being disabled and havin...Excuse me, Anonymous, but being disabled and having exceptional skills ARE NOT MUTUALLY EXCLUSIVE CONCEPTS.<br /><br />Being disabled and having exceptional commitment, whether to sports or anything else, ARE NOT MUTUALLY EXCLUSIVE CONCEPTS.<br /><br />I am deaf. I have attention deficit disorder. I am an outstanding writer. THESE ARE NOT MUTUALLY EXCLUSIVE CONCEPTS. Me being a great writer does not magically make me able to hear and nor does it magically give me executive functioning skills. Conversely, me being a person with MULTIPLE disabilities does not make me any less talented as a writer.<br /><br />I'm not going to stop you from calling yourself "differently abled" if that's what you prefer for your own personal self identification. But I resent your implication that being "disabled" is inherently a bad thing that a person should want to disclaim from their identity.<br /><br />Rather than giving in to the negative stereotypes that society has put upon our disabilities, I prefer to EDUCATE people about what it REALLY means to be disabled. What it really means is to have certain limitations in certain specific areas that mean we may need to use our many OTHER talents, ideally in combination with various kinds of assistive technology and a more universally designed environment, to compensate for or work around the specific areas of limitation we have. Sure, it may seem easier to just let people continue believing that being disabled is bad, or that being disabled means being completely helpless and incompetent in every single possible area of functioning that exists, and just find some other term that asserts your skills without directly confronting the prejudices of society. Each person needs to make their own choices for what battles they want to fight, and if that's not the battle you choose then so be it. Me, I'd rather claim the identity of "person with disabilities" or "disabled person" and then educate people about why they are wrong when they come to insulting or demeaning conclusions about what these terms or identities mean. <br /><br />I am not offended by your choice of "differently abled" as a label for yourself. I'm offended by your assumptions about what it means to be "disabled" or what it means when others choose that label for ourselves.Andrea S.http://andreashettle.tumblr.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-26089789358390215492015-08-16T15:27:34.988-04:002015-08-16T15:27:34.988-04:00It takes a lot of time and energy to be an athlete...It takes a lot of time and energy to be an athlete, Dave.<br /><br />I'm sure if you wanted to spend your time that way, with your determination, you'd be awesome.<br /><br />But time has to come from somewhere, and professional sports may not be everyone's choice.<br /><br />Me, I do the minimum I can get away with daily, and spend my time writing - which is what I really want to do with it. The brain doesn't allow both!ABEhrhardthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17211038591900883672noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-46794892892346601912015-08-16T08:27:39.124-04:002015-08-16T08:27:39.124-04:00I am confused about your decision to dislike the t...I am confused about your decision to dislike the term "differently abled" it communicates a difference in ability without any judgment involved.<br /><br />It is a judgment neutral terms.<br /><br />Disabled may sound straight up to you, but athletes with physical limitations are hardly disabled. We display exceptional skills and commitment to sport, even with different abilities we can use to our advantage.<br /><br />I am athlete with physical limitations, but I can tell you I'm certainly not disabled. Well.... at least not when I put the effort in, and give it my best.<br /><br />Enjoy your day.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-80339388784115754842015-08-16T08:05:05.608-04:002015-08-16T08:05:05.608-04:00SOAP?
SOAP?<br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-31330793204309479792015-08-16T08:02:01.452-04:002015-08-16T08:02:01.452-04:00I've noticed children and people with developm...I've noticed children and people with developmental challenges sometimes think it's funny to get a grown up in trouble. I'm sure you've seen it. It's pretty common.<br /><br />So is it conceivable a malicious parent or Principal might use that element against spouse or educator with the police?<br /><br />How many custody battles might have been decided based solely on a skilled manipulator coaxing some naive child into getting somebody in trouble..... because it's funny.<br /><br />Or might a child cry because someone is demanding they lie to the police about a beloved teacher or parent? In divorces one parent might take a child to the police and demand the child lie.... out of spite for the other parent.<br /><br />Can you discuss these scenarios in your abuse allegation blog? They seem like important issues.<br /><br />As an expert, how do you suggest we deal with these types of false claim scenarios?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-90006136776159818602015-08-16T07:52:40.565-04:002015-08-16T07:52:40.565-04:00When police tell the accusers there is no basis fo...When police tell the accusers there is no basis for a charge, what sort of message should we return with? Just ignore their assessment every time and start making demands?<br /><br />I mean.... the police are trained to make some assessments the average person is not trained for... right?<br /><br />And defamation and delusion must account for some false claims the police recognise right away.... right?<br /><br />In your blog do you talk about why we would persist in demanding action against the advice of police who are better trained to assess these matters? I was raised to respect police.... something is wrong with this picture.... can you talk about it in your blog?<br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-44968685484892144842015-08-16T07:41:41.883-04:002015-08-16T07:41:41.883-04:00I'm sorry anonymous but I really don't lik...I'm sorry anonymous but I really don't like that term. I respect your choice of words but I prefer straight up identification with who I am. Dave Hingsburgerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11918601687946534172noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-79010867327050383972015-08-16T07:16:27.919-04:002015-08-16T07:16:27.919-04:00I always got a smile out of people when I coined t...I always got a smile out of people when I coined the expression "differently abled".Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com