tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post238979941150609642..comments2024-03-29T03:43:45.977-04:00Comments on Of Battered Aspect: Gender and the Word NoDave Hingsburgerhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11918601687946534172noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-41098795313061329022008-11-16T22:23:00.000-05:002008-11-16T22:23:00.000-05:00Dave, I owe you an apology on the topic of touch. ...Dave, I owe you an apology on the topic of touch. So I blogged it - a real public apology for everyone to see. Check it out if you get a moment http://fall7times.blogspot.com/<BR/><BR/>AmyAmyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08502625442668400560noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-51206406345278053512008-11-16T17:31:00.000-05:002008-11-16T17:31:00.000-05:00Hey Dave, Next time you should shout out something...Hey Dave, <BR/><BR/>Next time you should shout out something wonderfully embarrassing for the offender, at the top of your lungs. Something like, "HEY,get your hands off my CROTCH!!!"Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-1674314078541478792008-11-16T04:01:00.000-05:002008-11-16T04:01:00.000-05:00I'm sorry about your experience dave, and I agree ...I'm sorry about your experience dave, and I agree with you 100%. People think that it's okay to touch others if they think it will be beneficial, or if they think it with transmit something. I absolutely hate it when someone I do not know well pats me on the back or shoulder. While this may seem unimportant to most, I believe that touch is something special, intimate.. and it's something that should require an invitation. This is bad enough, a simple pat on the back or shoulder, but to blatantly disregard someone's wishes is even worse, and is entirely inexcusable. It amazes me that I am still surprised by peoples stupidity and disregard for the feelings of their fellow human beings, but I am.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-14952833134859099682008-11-16T01:01:00.000-05:002008-11-16T01:01:00.000-05:00There are still many people casdok who don't think...There are still many people casdok who don't think it is at all necessary to listen to or respect the wishes of a person with a disability. In fact they think that they have superior knowledge and rights over us and that we really are just a bunch of R words.<BR/><BR/>I have been kissed (yes Kissed) on the forehead TWICE in the same encounter by a Qantas employee (a disability assistant) here in Australia. I don't have push handles on the back of my chair specifically to dissuade ppl from pushing me - it doesn't stop them from trying tho.<BR/><BR/>I have caught out a train employee in a blatant lie in a case of discrimination because he said he pulled me away from the train (I had my foot stuck in the open doorway to stop the train leaving without me on it). It is impossible to move an electric wheelchair when it is in drive mode.<BR/><BR/>Complete and overbearing arrogance is what it is from such people and it makes me want to punch their faces! Good job I can't swing a decent punch or I might be in gaol now for assault. I show incredible restraint at all times (if only they knew) from ramming ppl with my wheelchair.<BR/><BR/>GleeGleehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17671758996746410949noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-13739056899270805242008-11-15T21:43:00.000-05:002008-11-15T21:43:00.000-05:00Good point well put.There are many circumstances i...Good point well put.<BR/><BR/>There are many circumstances in which the natural "no touching" boundaries are blurred (for some people):<BR/><BR/>Age (very young or very old), disability and pregnancy come to mind. The latter was particularly mind-boggling to me. Why some people -especially men- think it is OK to pat a pregnant woman on the belly without asking is completely beyond me. <BR/><BR/>I have two children who are on the Autistic Spectrum (two strikes against them right there) and both HATED to be touched. Period. However, they lacked the skills to say so. They were further cursed by being very cute -especially my daughter (three strikes)<BR/><BR/>I have lost count of the number of times I have had to physically restrain or deflect someone's hand above one of my kid's heads, closing in for the Dreaded Hair Ruffle. <BR/><BR/>And while maybe that makes me as bad for touching them, well... Protection is the one reason I WILL break the taboo.<BR/><BR/>One Sick MotherOne Sick Motherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06744571221745247997noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-87079838057952833082008-11-15T11:50:00.000-05:002008-11-15T11:50:00.000-05:00Wo, Dave. This is an understatement, but... I wo...Wo, Dave. This is an understatement, but... I wouldn't have liked that either. Good for you speaking up. I hope you speak up further to the airline.Andrew Stewarthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01272199941091076474noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-66706681377663101692008-11-15T08:32:00.000-05:002008-11-15T08:32:00.000-05:00Absolutely, totally incredibly insensitive of the ...Absolutely, totally incredibly insensitive of the people who touched you. In fact, as I am not necessarily a litigious person, you have reason to look at the harassment aspects of this situation. Professionals should know better than to touch the customers of their service. <BR/><BR/>There are civil rights issues in this situation .....obviously not to mention the callous and rude behavior of the airport personnel.<BR/><BR/>Man, woman or otherwise.....DO NOT Touch without consent....I will fetch my lawyer if you don't respect that!!! That's what I would have said....<BR/><BR/>Ick,,,,Yuck...John R.https://www.blogger.com/profile/09855575688523179265noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-25275198252991097812008-11-15T06:52:00.000-05:002008-11-15T06:52:00.000-05:00Good for you for speaking out.So many times strang...Good for you for speaking out.<BR/>So many times strangers and sometimes friends too have just moved me out of the way without even asking.<BR/>They would not push me if I was standing so why do they think that's ok when I'm sitting.<BR/>I consider my chair to be part of me so touch it at your peril.<BR/>Especially today.<BR/><BR/>Tired and irritable.<BR/><BR/>Love your blog<BR/><BR/>Heather xAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-81935823019192419872008-11-15T06:26:00.000-05:002008-11-15T06:26:00.000-05:00Sorry to read about your experience. What ever hap...Sorry to read about your experience. What ever happened to respect and the simple art of listening?Casdokhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03497897393162856190noreply@blogger.com