tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post2357233541613276941..comments2024-03-29T03:43:45.977-04:00Comments on Of Battered Aspect: A Gift GivenDave Hingsburgerhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11918601687946534172noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-11059899053803881832012-11-07T19:56:54.297-05:002012-11-07T19:56:54.297-05:00Thank goodness that you have been able to help Ste...Thank goodness that you have been able to help Stephen have something to wrap around his broken heart when people are so cruel. He only wants to give and share his love with people and he is repaid by despicable people hurting him. I have witnessed him being hurt by managers at social services who think it is fine to humiliate people in public, commenting on how much he was eating! Not that we put up with that comment! <br />Why can't people just be kinder?Jayne walesnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-86568047811338997182012-11-07T19:56:38.628-05:002012-11-07T19:56:38.628-05:00Thank goodness that you have been able to help Ste...Thank goodness that you have been able to help Stephen have something to wrap around his broken heart when people are so cruel. He only wants to give and share his love with people and he is repaid by despicable people hurting him. I have witnessed him being hurt by managers at social services who think it is fine to humiliate people in public, commenting on how much he was eating! Not that we put up with that comment! <br />Why can't people just be kinder?Jayne walesnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-47377240259452867662012-11-07T18:44:03.632-05:002012-11-07T18:44:03.632-05:00Really powerful story. I love that Stephen came ba...Really powerful story. I love that Stephen came back with a gift for Ruby to comfort her. <br /><br />By the way, I was watching the video and thinking what wonderful grandpas you and Joe make. Not that you're *quite* old enough, of course, but I think your love for Ruby and Sadie is like the love of good grandparents: unconditional, delighted, uncomplicated. Cynthia F.noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-20995386495083241842012-11-06T21:51:03.604-05:002012-11-06T21:51:03.604-05:00Thank you for this post today, Dave. I remember w...Thank you for this post today, Dave. I remember when you were first deciding whether you should go public with this song (other than with Joe and Ruby) and how you struggled with that choice. Then it went more widely public than you had intended. So you shared it after all, and now it has become a powerful and important part of your training.<br /><br />One thing I do wonder about. This song basically involves giving the self an ego boost, which I can see as a valuable thing when people around you are trying to tear you down. But what if there is someone whose self esteem is so smothered that they have trouble saying "I'm okay with being me"? To the point where they might struggle to internalize this song, to develop the sense of entitlement over it--i.e. that they have the right to heal themselves when hurt by others, that they have the right to claim themselves as being "okay" (and thus, "okay with being me") Has this kind of situation come up yet? Or is it something you anticipate maybe happening at some point? How might one handle that kind of situation?Andrea S.http://gdrl.orgnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-69451638183515094042012-11-05T21:46:17.502-05:002012-11-05T21:46:17.502-05:00Dear Dave:
What a powerful post! What strikes me ...Dear Dave:<br /><br />What a powerful post! What strikes me is how strong you were/are to have created this song and what a gift it is to those you share it with - Ruby, Stephen, the others at your workshops, us on your blog.<br /><br />ColleenColleennoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-44732271617006318272012-11-05T21:45:08.104-05:002012-11-05T21:45:08.104-05:00I just had to come back and read this again. :-) G...I just had to come back and read this again. :-) Good night! Tamarahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04624151975591059655noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-49135879216354950182012-11-05T16:39:25.582-05:002012-11-05T16:39:25.582-05:00that is lovely Dave, thanks for sharing that it ma...that is lovely Dave, thanks for sharing that it made me smile after a hard hard day surrounded by bullies passing themselves as managers. I am only just learning the duty to ourselves to protect our hearts and minds. I wish I too had had Rby's song when I was growing upAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-59603947240115008732012-11-05T09:11:56.818-05:002012-11-05T09:11:56.818-05:00Wow. I just cried. That is one powerful experience...Wow. I just cried. That is one powerful experience, one powerful song, one powerful gift ... one powerful piece of writing. Thank you Dave and Joe and Ruby and Stephen (and the wonderful painting behind you in the video).Nanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10375461078977866753noreply@blogger.com