tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post1804375711447823906..comments2024-03-16T19:36:23.953-04:00Comments on Of Battered Aspect: Home RunDave Hingsburgerhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11918601687946534172noreply@blogger.comBlogger27125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-43579019789903976142008-09-11T13:09:00.000-04:002008-09-11T13:09:00.000-04:00I've never posted but so enjoy your blog--I now tr...I've never posted but so enjoy your blog--I now try to read it every morning. What a writer you are. Thanks for the inspiration, the support, the laughs and the tears. <BR/><BR/>My daughter has Down syndrome and I had the pleasure of attending a your session at a CDSS conference in Waterloo. <BR/><BR/>Just want to let you know that after reading your original post about the "Words Hit Like a Fist.." cards, I jumped on having them ordered for our upcoming Lower Mainland Down Syndrome Society Buddy Walk in sunny Surrey, BC. They're winging their way and we'll be passing them out for everyone to use! Every little bit of empowerment helps. <BR/><BR/>Thanks Dave.wordsong_girlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05968479385796776221noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-78659533156082868402008-09-10T02:43:00.000-04:002008-09-10T02:43:00.000-04:00Brilliant! I don't think I have ever felt so prou...Brilliant! I don't think I have ever felt so proud of someone in my entire life!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-25381118739629770402008-09-09T14:07:00.000-04:002008-09-09T14:07:00.000-04:00Hi Dave, Way to go....Good for you.Can you tell us...Hi Dave, <BR/><BR/>Way to go....Good for you.<BR/><BR/>Can you tell us where you can get those cards... I think it would be a great idea to have a couple of them hanging around.<BR/>Thanks <BR/>DavidAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-7055526231515340522008-09-09T13:51:00.000-04:002008-09-09T13:51:00.000-04:00ok, im a bad readerwheredja git the cards?:0ok, im a bad reader<BR/><BR/>wheredja git the cards?<BR/><BR/><BR/><BR/>:0Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01565998603334724138noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-63316659483381279372008-09-09T06:12:00.000-04:002008-09-09T06:12:00.000-04:00well done that lad.well done that lad.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-54201930508028850822008-09-09T00:09:00.000-04:002008-09-09T00:09:00.000-04:00I just got my cards in the mail today. I too was i...I just got my cards in the mail today. I too was impressed with the quality of the cards. I was thinking when I got them...I can't wait to use these!!! Now I am a little scared but not so scared that I won't hand one out when I hear that horrible word. I already knew that whenever the time came to give one out that I would be in for a confrontation. I am so pleased that you wrote about this today. After getting them in the mail your blog just made my day. I know that it took courage to do what you did and I also know that I too have that courage. The time has come. I will never again pretend that I didn't hear that word. I wish I never had.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-18035735965704498682008-09-08T22:00:00.000-04:002008-09-08T22:00:00.000-04:00This is very inspiring, I sent this post to my 12 ...This is very inspiring, I sent this post to my 12 and 14 yr old sons, hopefully they'll get something from it, thanks DaveSkylexhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07204939030623430475noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-67440098050881289052008-09-08T21:56:00.000-04:002008-09-08T21:56:00.000-04:00You totally rock.You totally rock.Liz Millerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09469435277058701080noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-36401905220069759302008-09-08T20:37:00.000-04:002008-09-08T20:37:00.000-04:00You go, Dave!!! Woohoo! I'm wondering... Was Jo...You go, Dave!!! Woohoo! <BR/><BR/>I'm wondering... Was Joe sorry he missed it? Or kind of glad.. :)Susanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12527926041729913404noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-1727441185463388872008-09-08T20:12:00.000-04:002008-09-08T20:12:00.000-04:00Bravo, Dave!Re, the Mom's reaction, my guess is:1....Bravo, Dave!<BR/><BR/>Re, the Mom's reaction, my guess is:<BR/><BR/>1. As you point out, your behavior could have initially appeared to be something more "ikky"<BR/><BR/>2. Then, as you suggest, she had a lot of trouble "gearing down"<BR/><BR/>3. Then she probably felt a bit attacked herself, in regard to her parenting skills, and I'm sure that's also a very sensitive area for any parent (given that many parents get criticized for a lot of things, often unfairly), so that was probably something that pushed an entirely separate set of buttons in her.<BR/><BR/>The fact that it came within minutes after the first set of buttons had been pushed could have created the "escalation" effect that you saw. So the escalation does make sense to me.<BR/><BR/>Of course it's hard to know for sure without being there, and without even knowing this woman. But my hope is that maybe later on, after she had a chance to calm down and think more coherently (without the cascade effect of multiple pushed buttons to throw her off), maybe she would have gotten your point. And been proud of her kid for "getting" what she had been teaching him about being considerate after all--even despite herself.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-31472408005432862602008-09-08T19:19:00.000-04:002008-09-08T19:19:00.000-04:00This is a fabulous post - I am glad I found your b...This is a fabulous post - I am glad I found your blog - I think you may have just turned that young lad round - hopefully he will always remember that dayCarolinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02258328867310392545noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-79792640188618571762008-09-08T15:21:00.000-04:002008-09-08T15:21:00.000-04:00Dave, all I can say is....I LOVE YOU!!!!!!Dave, all I can say is....<BR/><BR/>I LOVE YOU!!!!!!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09715751555766636635noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-76740100019372870852008-09-08T15:04:00.000-04:002008-09-08T15:04:00.000-04:00Oh man I feel queasy just thinking about it, havin...Oh man I feel queasy just thinking about it, having a shouting match with an ignorant stranger in a shop.<BR/><BR/>You are lucky you could even hold on to your sentence structure in a situation like that.Shanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10704810407872873565noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-6905877717607473022008-09-08T12:54:00.000-04:002008-09-08T12:54:00.000-04:00Just do be careful. People with tempers who are a...Just do be careful. People with tempers who are already unthinking can get out of hand. Of course you live in Canada and not the States, where anything goes. I'm just thinking of some disability hostile experiences I've had recently.FridaWriteshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03321658097813377806noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-12741347478393020072008-09-08T11:38:00.000-04:002008-09-08T11:38:00.000-04:00Hi Dave,Its not only hard to raise kids that have ...Hi Dave,<BR/><BR/>Its not only hard to raise kids that have a disability, its hard to raise kids period. They don't just learn from us (parents, that is) and the world isn't especially kind to parents, moms especially, just like it isn't kind to people with differences, disability being only one of them. After all just a generation prior Mom's were blamed for autism, now its just everything but...I feel certain Mom got the message, as well the child; both hopefully life long. I think/hope the mom just didn't have the time to process and accept the lesson with the same grace of the child.rhavhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08241828795620278648noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-4622831698772897062008-09-08T11:02:00.000-04:002008-09-08T11:02:00.000-04:00Awesome! High five Dave! And you know what else I ...Awesome! High five Dave! And you know what else I find exciting about that whole exchange besides the fact that you have forever altered that boy's mindset? What if he "pays it forward"? What if he saves the card and uses it on someone else to educate them? Who knows how far that card and your exchange may end up traveling? Bravo!Jessicahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09568225602565669985noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-37256904128895374162008-09-08T10:47:00.000-04:002008-09-08T10:47:00.000-04:00Fun to read how you were listening hard so you cou...Fun to read how you were listening hard so you could use your new cards. I'm not disappointed that it took a little while.<BR/><BR/>I'm so glad the boy got it! <BR/>I understand mom wanting to defend her son, but ....<BR/>I hope she gets it too.<BR/>Cool!Cynthiahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12090051661613157087noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-42954228965735295592008-09-08T10:13:00.000-04:002008-09-08T10:13:00.000-04:00Despite his mother...HE got it! I love it!!! I wis...Despite his mother...HE got it! I love it!!! I wish ALL kids had that strong convictions!All 4 My Galshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04388794548592051699noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-74448310432873484212008-09-08T10:12:00.000-04:002008-09-08T10:12:00.000-04:00Wow, what a valuable lesson that young man got and...Wow, what a valuable lesson that young man got and sounds like he took on board. Sadly it looks as though the media seems to be getting worse. The following comes from the obnoxious British "comedian" Russell Brand yesterday at the MTV awards:<BR/><BR/>"Some people, I think they're called racists, say America is not ready for a black president," he said. <BR/><BR/>"But I know America to be a forward-thinking country because otherwise why would you have let that retarded cowboy fella be president for eight years. <BR/><BR/>"We were very impressed. We thought it was nice of you to let him have a go, because, in England, he wouldn't be trusted with a pair of scissors." <BR/><BR/>Sadly, this is reported without comment on the BBC websites coverage of the MTV event.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-64657413626052197592008-09-08T10:01:00.000-04:002008-09-08T10:01:00.000-04:00janet c ... I wonder that too. I realized as soon ...janet c ... I wonder that too. I realized as soon as she came around the corner that I probably looked like I was passing him my address or phone number .... or something equally ikky. So she probably started with anger and had trouble gearing down. I really get why she was upset at first. But she just kept escalating after that ... but initially, I think you are right.Dave Hingsburgerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11918601687946534172noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-49771355454652573502008-09-08T09:51:00.000-04:002008-09-08T09:51:00.000-04:00And, can you imagine the talk on the playground th...And, can you imagine the talk on the playground this morning? All about Mom and the guy with the card?<BR/><BR/> "Hey don't use that word...this guy with wheels might show up, and then your mom might embarrass the #$@ out of you"<BR/><BR/>Way to go, Dave!<BR/><BR/>But I keep thinking...there might be another reason why Mom flipped out -- she may have just been reacting to the interaction with her son -- I know I've jumped to conclusions before when perfectly wonderful strangers have interacted with either of my kids. Yes, I know that doesn't justify any of her words, just maybe her over-reaction to the situation.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-77158003438623425982008-09-08T09:31:00.000-04:002008-09-08T09:31:00.000-04:00Ooh, wow, sounds like he learned the lesson better...Ooh, wow, sounds like he learned the lesson better than she did. That's great.<BR/><BR/>You're right, women can walk more emphatically angry!FridaWriteshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03321658097813377806noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-79272569390832654812008-09-08T09:05:00.000-04:002008-09-08T09:05:00.000-04:00horah!! I'm dancing that he apologized, seems like...horah!! I'm dancing that he apologized, seems like mum could learn much from her son.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-47122814184565386902008-09-08T08:44:00.000-04:002008-09-08T08:44:00.000-04:00I have goosebumps!That kid is now forever changed ...I have goosebumps!<BR/><BR/>That kid is now forever changed by your exchange, he will never again use that word I'm sure. <BR/><BR/>Now we just have how many millions more to go? Imagine the difference it would make if everyone who reads this blog stands up the same way you did...FABhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04165249238828950005noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-84784834716297433962008-09-08T08:05:00.000-04:002008-09-08T08:05:00.000-04:00The hard confrontational work you did there Dave w...The hard confrontational work you did there Dave was very well rewarded! I am beaming with a big hug for that boy!<BR/><BR/>Mum probably did learn something too.<BR/><BR/>Go Dave - love it.<BR/><BR/>cheers<BR/>GleeGleehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17671758996746410949noreply@blogger.com