tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post1712924241986824785..comments2024-03-19T07:36:33.915-04:00Comments on Of Battered Aspect: ForgettingDave Hingsburgerhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11918601687946534172noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-27316021578644517142015-04-05T07:00:34.248-04:002015-04-05T07:00:34.248-04:00Like asking me if I forget I can walk. I only reme...Like asking me if I forget I can walk. I only remember about walking when I'm doing it -- or when I want to and can't.<br /><br />It's only the artificial barriers that remind any of us of any specific ability or dis-ability. The step that's too high for me, the doorway that's too narrow for your chair. The smirk on some asshole's face.<br /><br />Thanks for this -- you've clarified some more stuff for me.Maggienoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-67938499933638778372015-04-03T22:43:47.357-04:002015-04-03T22:43:47.357-04:00I know this. I just am (forget the disabled bit). ...I know this. I just am (forget the disabled bit). At the time there's no special feeling about it though. It's when the other person can't get past it and reminds me one way or another. Actually this doesn't feel too bad, in fact it's like "oh yeah, that (the absence of the disabled label) was nice while it lasted". <br /><br />That's a good one - askable. That's an everyone term. Thanks, Dave.B.noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-72187803334199838142015-04-03T19:23:40.047-04:002015-04-03T19:23:40.047-04:00You forget you are disabled in environments that d...You forget you are disabled in environments that don't have physical and attitudinal barriers. Colleennoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-40811133013758519052015-04-03T08:58:45.641-04:002015-04-03T08:58:45.641-04:00Dave: You wrote,
"I'm not going to...Dave: You wrote, <br /> "I'm not going to use the words 'tolerant' or 'accepting' because those imply some kind of gift that we disabled are given. I don't want a 'gift,' I want to be able to expect respect."<br /><br /> Me, too.<br /><br /> Antonia Lederhos Chandlerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04547400478477070311noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-12142545455675956752015-04-03T06:58:40.860-04:002015-04-03T06:58:40.860-04:00We live with lots of labels - "sibling, child...We live with lots of labels - "sibling, child, parent, employee, neighbour, member, etc." And most of the time we aren't aware of those labels. The times they come to forefront are those times when someone either reminds us of them, when someone challenges us about them and/or when someone uses a label to denigrate or shame us. <br /><br />Bottom line, we can choose those labels with which we want to be identified - and refuse to be discounted by those who try to depreciate our value. It's a constant challenge for me - and I suspect for many others . . .<br /><br />Just thinkingAnonymousnoreply@blogger.com