tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post1210174201954096180..comments2024-03-19T07:36:33.915-04:00Comments on Of Battered Aspect: Bright light, Dark Room: Let's Have a DiscussionDave Hingsburgerhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11918601687946534172noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-90205319548110739422018-06-12T12:38:38.227-04:002018-06-12T12:38:38.227-04:00My son has autism and uses his cell phone when he ...My son has autism and uses his cell phone when he needs to escape over stimulation. I imagine that this is what this boy was doing. Thank you for being understanding; I think you did the right thing. Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12615220302885452541noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-27316607342699615412018-06-11T14:23:27.275-04:002018-06-11T14:23:27.275-04:00I very much appreciate your choice to allow him hi...I very much appreciate your choice to allow him his coping without judgment or complaint. I notice that my own response to this story is modified by your opening remarks about the theater. It seems likely that they wanted to sit in the very back to avoid disturbing other people ... and landed in front of you only because that's where the wheelchair seating had been placed.<br /><br />I think I would have liked this better if the family had apologized for sitting so near in front and possibly blocking your view, especially if they knew ahead of time that this child would be standing up and changing seats frequently, as well as using the lighted cellphone. <br /><br />When he is a bit older perhaps he can modify his coping strategies, or perhaps make his own acknowledgements when he is about to do something that might inconvenience a stranger. But with a child? I think your choice was the right one.<br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-21386952217828061432018-06-11T00:16:07.898-04:002018-06-11T00:16:07.898-04:00I see Alicia's comment and mostly agree. I ha...I see Alicia's comment and mostly agree. I have a niece with a 'different' brain, and social settings were dreadful at some points. <br />It seems they did have choices of where to sit - but maybe this was a bit of the 'not seeing' of a WC user and an "old" man. (Being of similar age to you and Joe, I don't think you are old but i have become very familiar wth the invisibility that comes to people of a certain age.) I'd like to think maybe there was something about their choice of seats that mattered to the little boy. <br />And maybe too much analyzing is not helpful. <br />We always have the choice to be kind. And you know so very well what is is like to have a 'helpful' stranger give you unasked for information or assistance. clairesmumhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12235828110880302069noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-6340500141847184202018-06-10T10:56:31.533-04:002018-06-10T10:56:31.533-04:00It was kind of you to cut the kid some slack.
If ...It was kind of you to cut the kid some slack.<br /><br />If his family has taken him out to events like this one, and were not making an attempt to modify his behavior (you can be sure they know about it), the assumption is that it is his way of coping (or he has useless parents). Maybe that WAS the least disruptive way they could be inclusive. Plus he got to watch the movie. His way.<br /><br />I just wish they hadn't sat themselves where they bothered you and Joe - assuming they had any other choices. It's not really fair to assume other people who might be sensitive to the extra wiggling and light will be okay, especially in a movie theater.ABEhrhardthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17211038591900883672noreply@blogger.com