tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post116164506199147547..comments2024-03-19T07:36:33.915-04:00Comments on Of Battered Aspect: No To ALL AbuseDave Hingsburgerhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11918601687946534172noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-1161651275611811812006-10-23T20:54:00.000-04:002006-10-23T20:54:00.000-04:00Wow, Dave. (You evoke that word a LOT in me!) Yo...Wow, Dave. (You evoke that word a LOT in me!) You just made me laugh at myself. Bigtime... What a goof I am sometimes! What an inspiring perspective you've given us... Again!<BR/><BR/>One of the hardest battles I ever fought was the "you're no good" battle. Those were the words I repeated over and over to myself. I guess because they were the words I'd heard others - and the circumstances of life - say over and over to me so many times that I probably couldn't help but believe them. Then someone told me how much it hurt her when she heard me say those words. I couldn't understand that... because it seemed so obvious to me... But I started to fight the battle anyway. Everytime I heard "you're no good" or more likely "you're no f-ing good" (and it wasn't a dash I put in there!) I would replace those words with, "you may be no good, but you sure are loved". It went so against my natural grain that I had to FORCE myself. Before long, though, I was leaving out the "you're no good part" and just saying, "You're loved." <BR/><BR/>Well, it took about a year, of really hard work. I knew I was "there" when I would do something really stupid and I would laugh at myself. Or at least forgive myself a lot sooner. Or someone else would tell me something they thought I did was wrong and it didn't hurt as much as it used to. Because I wasn't hearing them say "you're no good" anymore, but simply "you made a mistake". There's a world of difference there.<BR/><BR/>It's funny though, (maybe this is one of those things God laughs at) as hard-won as that battle was, and as well as I sometimes think I've learned the lesson, I'm STILL inclined to react sometimes with a "you're no f-ing good" when someone points out to me that I've made a mistake. Or when I see one myself. <BR/><BR/>I love the idea you've given us of "firing myself"! Come to think of it there's a few other people I need to fire, too.<BR/><BR/>The next time I call myself an ass-hole, I sure hope someone reminds me to fire myself!<BR/><BR/>Thanks again, Dave. I needed that!Lilyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06622839373803660778noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-1161646631020969852006-10-23T19:37:00.000-04:002006-10-23T19:37:00.000-04:00Wow, that is a "post to ponder" and how right on.Wow, that is a "post to ponder" and how right on.Belindahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09251920708783268740noreply@blogger.com