tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post1151210745279933962..comments2024-03-19T07:36:33.915-04:00Comments on Of Battered Aspect: ReadyDave Hingsburgerhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11918601687946534172noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-34274307617203948292018-07-06T15:58:30.751-04:002018-07-06T15:58:30.751-04:00anyway, people can be nasty. You are one of the go...anyway, people can be nasty. You are one of the good guys Dave. thanks for continuing the work you do.<br />i appreciate you.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-58245783164710745872018-07-04T15:32:19.191-04:002018-07-04T15:32:19.191-04:00I find myself leaving my house less and less the p...I find myself leaving my house less and less the past month and a bit.<br /><br />Some of that is the cold, rainy, windy weather - going out in it makes my muscle/joint pain MUCH worse.<br /><br />Some of it is that my powerchair can't get water in its electrical bits, or it will break.<br /><br />But a lot of it is that I am fed up with the constant flow of microaggressions (and MACRO aggressions) that I encounter day in day out when I leave the house.<br /><br />The hoodlum honking his horn and yelling insults at me from a speeding car, because I dare to use a wheelchair.<br /><br />The scowls.<br /><br />The staring.<br /><br />The strangers touching me without asking, and people getting angry when I ask people not to touch me. One man on the train, wearing a business suit, patted me on the head like a dog! :(<br /><br />The not getting out of my way when I ask politely.<br /><br />Telling me angrily "You've got plenty of room!" when I ask nicely for people to move out of my way so that I can turn or get past.<br /><br />The bumping into me, hard enough that I'm in pain for days.<br /><br />Strangers using my powerchair as something people can hang off, without asking, on the train.<br /><br />The stranger patting me on the hand and saying in a sing-song voice as though I am 2, "You're so BRAVE!"<br /><br />More and more, I find myself weighing up the benefits of leaving my house, and the emotional/physical costs of leaving my house, and deciding to stay home yet again.<br /><br />At the moment I'm leaving the house perhaps once per seven days, and that's usually for doctor's appointments.<br /><br />I dream of having a staff member to accompany me on outings to fend off the aggression and the ableism from random members of the public.<br /><br />I can't even go to my local chemist/newsagent/post office/ATM without someone hassling me just because I use a wheelchair. :(<br /><br />I am sick of it, and I just don't have it in me to endure it anymore.<br /><br />So, I've spent most of June at home, and will probably spend most of July at home, too.Lhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18285070926705237161noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-56722364448262045602018-07-04T02:36:32.554-04:002018-07-04T02:36:32.554-04:00How right you are Dave
So many people I have known...How right you are Dave<br />So many people I have known who prefer twilight hours. A friend who lost her child couldn't bear to see families shopping and people I have listened to saying there's not so much out there when it gets darker <br />They would rather risk the uncertainty of darkness than the glaring light of day and all that brings<br />Home has to be a Sanctiary and for many it's just another place to be bullied<br />Instead of the joy of feeling safe another set of bullies ordering you about and inflicting their standards on you in your own little safe haven Jayne Waleshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14453464335047666502noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-11091075064475388292018-07-03T17:39:04.411-04:002018-07-03T17:39:04.411-04:00Isn't it lovely to have some "me days&quo...Isn't it lovely to have some "me days"!<br />I took this weekend for me also as haven't had any for awhile and some stressful things coming up. Have thoroughly enjoyed myself. Bit of guilt about things not done creeping in but holding it at bay until tomorrow.<br />Hope you are fully recharged before returning to the fray.Flemisahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06071892012220547892noreply@blogger.com