tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post104841266423198742..comments2024-03-29T03:43:45.977-04:00Comments on Of Battered Aspect: JigDave Hingsburgerhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11918601687946534172noreply@blogger.comBlogger13125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-40035272854617135682007-07-12T12:40:00.000-04:002007-07-12T12:40:00.000-04:00Good news is good to hear. Well done; now for the...Good news is good to hear. Well done; now for the next battle in fighting the good fight.Sallyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08223682934383856392noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-27317792198647521722007-07-12T06:51:00.000-04:002007-07-12T06:51:00.000-04:00WOO HOO Dave!Just got back from a few days away do...WOO HOO Dave!<BR/><BR/>Just got back from a few days away doing some training with a team about values and the rights of people with learning disabilities. <BR/><BR/>I missed chewing the fat while I was away, can you imagine how delighted I was to catch up on this news? It was a real lesson to me, as I had emailed the site to complain and had got a wishy washy response (which I posted here a few days ago). I admit that I had been nervous about the impact my voice would have and had decided to be brave and speak up anyway. I am glad I did, as not only did it play a part in making a bit of a difference it taught me something strong about talking steps to make a difference. In this case one persons voice may have made a point and the fact that all the one person's out there who made a point resulted in "'together WE made a difference!"<BR/><BR/>I am doing a jig too.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-57431880469805038142007-07-11T10:20:00.000-04:002007-07-11T10:20:00.000-04:00here in the states, when i was security at a 'bord...here in the states, when i was security at a 'borderline' apartment complex, i know if it reallyyyyyyyyy hit the fan with an airman...i would call his CO, and get quicker results, than if i called the cops...<BR/><BR/>So I emailed their CO! Since their websight mirrored the British Armys Website...i thought that it may prove useful to let the army know about the thread....and that WE wouldnt tolerate THAT KIND OF BUNK in this country....they should be ASHAMED!!<BR/><BR/>Dance on dave! there are, im sure, THOUSANDS that get to peek at your blog...and will respond. <BR/><BR/>YOU ROCK!!<BR/><BR/>e wilson<BR/>mom to molly kate, 7Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01565998603334724138noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-24398409334057784902007-07-11T06:48:00.000-04:002007-07-11T06:48:00.000-04:00First let me say, Dance on Dave. I may join you! ...First let me say, Dance on Dave. I may join you! Many insults come in and out of fashion and I agree with those who say they are used out of ignorance. The cure for ignorance is education. It can be hard, but most important things are! I can't say I am always perfect at this but I try. One way I've done with with adults is to ask them if they would use specific other words that literally mean "this specific group of people" to describe negative traits or behaviours...you know the ones I mean...the ones that relate to race or religion or sexual orientation. Most are horrified that I would ask such thing and are also shocked to see how this is the same thing.wendyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14790763688701278823noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-18223871237548633872007-07-10T22:18:00.000-04:002007-07-10T22:18:00.000-04:00I think a lot of it is ignorance. Honestly I think...I think a lot of it is ignorance. Honestly I think very rarely is it said with viciousness to the people it's actually hurting.<BR/><BR/>I stop and explain why it hurts every time I hear it. I speak at my children's school every year to try to get the kids to understand and to start rethinking it's use.<BR/><BR/>You're right Dave, who knows how much change our single efforts create, but I agree together we can be a force! :) And at the end of the day if my daughter's corner of the world is a bit safer for her that's a great change.All 4 My Galshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04388794548592051699noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-50568204377085391452007-07-10T18:57:00.000-04:002007-07-10T18:57:00.000-04:00I don't stand for people using "that" word around ...I don't stand for people using "that" word around me either. My kids are well aware of my position and I know they at least discourage their friends from using it when around me....hopefully it is more than just at those times.<BR/>My son is particularly sensitve to hearing it when we are out, and if someone says it, he says "I was worried what you were going to do when he/she dropped the "R" bomb".<BR/><BR/>Also, I want to thank Stephen for the awareness. I sent emails to the site as well and just saw that I received a reply letting me know the thread was removed as well.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-3466222538561434762007-07-10T16:40:00.000-04:002007-07-10T16:40:00.000-04:00I'm thinking about the NAACP's symbolic burial of ...I'm thinking about the NAACP's symbolic burial of the "N" word - it might be interesting to monitor the effects & impact of that - I'm not big on copycatting, but if the NAACPs actions prove effective, maybe a ceremonial "R" word cremation is in order. Hmmm, what organization would best take that initiative? CACL? Thoughts, anyone?<BR/>Dave - I'm glad you got your jig back! Your blogs often do that for me. :-)StillStandinghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05266049467522141491noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-12312787768965515122007-07-10T14:11:00.000-04:002007-07-10T14:11:00.000-04:00I had a close girlfriend send a joke thru email on...I had a close girlfriend send a joke thru email one day, copied several people on it too (only one I knew personally), in which a line in the joke was to the affect of being at a disadvantage and riding the short bus. I politely "Replied All" and said You may forward this if you choose, however just so you know, my son rides the short bus and thank god for that bus because he gets to school and his friends and teachers etc safely and loves every minute of it" If you find this email funny, you're more at a disadvantage than he ever will be" The point was made and taken. She was aghast. She knew my son, knew of our struggles, struggles herself with prejudice (she's white, her husband is black) yet she sent it out! I would never let my friends get away with it. I don't let co-workers get away with it. Some strangers get away with it, mainly because you never know what that person might do. I've been called a "militant downy mom" but I got the offensive post removed. I've had a co-worker avoid me from that point on, once I threatened to take him to HR and told him I'd win no matter what his excuse for his poor behavior.... <BR/><BR/>I guess it goes with the territory. Sometimes we change the world one person at a time. My suggestion at the very least is to tell your friends your shocked and hurt that they would use that word and how that affects your child. You don't have to be in their face or anything.... <BR/><BR/>Good luck and hang tough!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09715751555766636635noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-77500673215170560352007-07-10T12:54:00.000-04:002007-07-10T12:54:00.000-04:00I'm fairly strict on 'that' word, to the point tha...I'm fairly strict on 'that' word, to the point that when we go to a movie and the word is used in dialogue my friends gasp in horror, knowing my reaction. No one says it around me more than once. I just don't allow it, the same with other words that are disrespectful to minorities. Sometimes people say that I don't have a sense of humour, I say I have a sense of humour I just don't have a toleration for meanness.Dave Hingsburgerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11918601687946534172noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-61979739134647886932007-07-10T12:47:00.000-04:002007-07-10T12:47:00.000-04:00Kudos to all on a fight well fought. Kimberly, I'...Kudos to all on a fight well fought. <BR/>Kimberly, I'm with you. I'm hearing that word everywhere suddenly. When it is thrown about by someone i don't know, I have absolutely no trouble telling them how hurtful their words are...but when it is a friend, or a casual acquaintance, I just really am at a loss for how to respond in a way that can make a difference...I'd so much rather be calm and graceful, rather than annoying and shrieky, which is how my gut tells me to react!!! Dave? Anyone?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-34955791117838576002007-07-10T12:17:00.000-04:002007-07-10T12:17:00.000-04:00Just a question to everyone?The "retard" word is b...Just a question to everyone?<BR/><BR/>The "retard" word is becoming very prevalant once again in people's language. We seemed to have got rid of it for awhile!!!<BR/><BR/>How does everyone respond to people that use it?<BR/><BR/>I have had the discussion with my boys the second it came out of their mouths but what about others?<BR/><BR/>The teenagers, not thinking that a word called to a friend(who is not really retarded) can hurt anyone?<BR/><BR/>To the adults who grew up knowing that it was not a word to use but now use it all the time?<BR/><BR/>I still get tongue tied from the shock of hearing this word come out of the mouths of my friends, and sadly family......who obviously I have not educated enough even after my whole career in the field!!!!<BR/><BR/>Any thoughts???<BR/><BR/>I would also like to say a big thank you to Stephen and all the others that took on the website link!!! HURAAAAAAAAAA!!!!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-47904428913695007602007-07-10T07:00:00.000-04:002007-07-10T07:00:00.000-04:00Guess, that would have been better if I'd spelled ...Guess, that would have been better if I'd spelled your name right, hey STEPHEN?Dave Hingsburgerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11918601687946534172noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35743239.post-179560402336734402007-07-10T06:59:00.000-04:002007-07-10T06:59:00.000-04:00Hi, I know I shouldn't be the first to comment on ...Hi, I know I shouldn't be the first to comment on my own blog, but I really wanted to say 'thanks' to Stehpen for bringing the arrse thread to us here on Fat. I have seen horrible sites before but the images on arrse were so over the top. Thankyou for caring, thankyou for getting angry about it, and thankyou for letting us join you in your fight to eliminate this from their website. Rah, Steven.Dave Hingsburgerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11918601687946534172noreply@blogger.com